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How To Write A Christian Personal Mission Statement
Vsevolod Mikhailovich by Ilya Repin, 1886 If you Google: ‘3 Parts of a Mission Statement’, more than likely what the search will yield this: The three parts of a mission statement are: 1. What We Do 2. Who We Serve 3. Why We Do It. In commerce, a mission statement 1. Describes a Solution we want to sell to people that will solve a problem they are having. 2. Identifies the segment of the consumer base we serve by providing this solution.
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Jun 127 min read


10 June 2026 Wednesday Readings Julian Calendar-Prologue, Scripture & Lives of the Saints
Venerable Elena of Diveyevo Monastery Wednesday June 10, 2026 / May 28, 2026 2nd Week after Pentecost. Tone eight.Apostles' (Peter & Paul) Fast. By Monastic Charter: Strict Fast (Bread, Vegetables, Fruits) 1VenerableNicetas, bishop of Chalcedon (9th c.). 2St.Ignatius, bishop and wonderworker of Rostov (1288). 2Venerable Helen of Diveyevo (1832). oNew Hieromartyr Macarius, Dyonisius, Hieromartyr Nicholas deacon, Martyrs Ignatius and Peter (1931). oNew Hieromartyr Heraclius con
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Jun 105 min read


Necessity the Mother
About Me: I am an Eastern Orthodox Christian who is a conservative. I believe that in order for our country to heal, the many wounded people within it need to heal. I hope that this will help some of those people. My story: I was abused as a child and as a result and after foster homes, group homes and two orphanage, I had lived for a while as a wild child in the land of the United States of America, trying without success to become a hippie. But once I became re-oriented to
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Jun 82 min read


The Personal Mission, Vision and Values Statement and Why You Should, Before You Buy Your Next Planner, Write Yours So That Your Planner Works For YOU and not you For It.
The Mission, Vision, and Values Statement Should Reflect the Mission, Vision, and Values of the Church as shared through its Liturgical cycles and its Holy Bible. Sts Peter and Paul, Our Lord Jesus Christ and the Church: Note Peter Holds Keys and Paul Holds a Book I want to start this blog with two quotes by St. Theophan the Recluse: "...I think many people do not live as they should, because they think that rules about the worthwhile life are outwardly imposed, and, not spri
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Jun 56 min read


3-June-2026 Wednesday Readings- Julian Calendar: Prologue and Scriptures & Lives of the Saints
Wednesday June 3, 2026 / May 21, 2026 According To Church Calendar Afterfeast of Pentecost. Tone seven.Fast-free Week. Fast-free 4The Meeting of the"Vladimir"Icon of the Most Holy Theotokos (was established to commemorate the deliverance of Moscow from an invasion of Tatars led by Khan Makhmet-Girei in 1521). 4Holy Equals-to-the-Apostles EmperorConstantine(337) andHelen, his mother (327). 3St.Constantine(1205) and his children Sts.MichaelandTheodore, wonderworkers of Murom. o
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Jun 36 min read


You Don't Have To Screw People Over to Survive Pt.2
How A Traffic Light Taught Me To Have Faith In the Fact That I Was Alive, and A Real Human Being Saint Macarius the Great with Cherub Click here to read Part I: You Don't Have To Screw People Over To Survive "Let us, who mystically represent the cherubim and sing the thrice-holy hymn to the life-giving trinity, lay aside all worldly cares, that we may receive the King of all, invisibly escorted by the angelic hosts. Alleluia, alleluia, alleluia." Cont'd from Part I Con Fideli
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Jun 12 min read


Wednesday Readings
Wednesday May 27, 2026 / May 14, 2026 Afterfeast of the Ascension. Tone six.Fast. Fish Allowed 1VenerableDodoof the St. David-Gareji Monastery, Georgia (596) (movable holiday on the Wednesday of Holy Ascension). 1MartyrIsidoreof Chios (251). 2St.Isidore, fool-for-Christ, wonderworker of Rostov (1474). oNew Hieromartyr Peter priest (1939). 0VenerableNicetas, bishop of Novgorod and recluse of the Kiev Caves (1108). 0MartyrMaximus, under Decius (250). 0VenerableSerapionthe Sindo
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May 276 min read


Friday's Tips and Strategies: Eisenhower's Matrix
How to Prioritize: Some people who struggle with Executive Functioning Skills are Great planners. I myself remember making plans on how to get some stability in my life; based on parameters that were not solid, or based on steps that didn't have conditions in place to be successful. For example: Trying to do everything at once, or trying to do tasks that trigger dysregulation. The Eisenhower method is a way to prioritize and identify tasks that dovetail well with your skill
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May 222 min read


You Don't Have To Screw People Over To Survive Part I
Sisyphus by Franz Von Stuck I’ve always had a complicated relationship with the word -confidence-. When I tried to take the advice of people around me--my biological aunt, my counselours at the group home--when I would practice being confident, I felt, and I think the feeling was not only accurate but mutual, that I was not behaving confidently but arrogantly. I was centered on my own needs, and my own will to assert myself, and whenever I was aware of myself acting this way,
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May 182 min read


A Very Short History of the New Year and Its Spiritual Relation to the Modern Planner
The Lord Creating the World The Ecclesiastical or Church New Year is such a blessing to those who observe it. There is a grand mystery...
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Sep 22, 20253 min read


How Divine Liturgy Service Reinvigorates Your Commitment to Participate in The Sacraments of Healing Offered By The Church.
Jesus Heals the Paralytic There is something about a Divine Liturgy service that envelopes you in the arms of Christ. Many times after...
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Jun 25, 20253 min read


The Adult In the Room
John Lennon and Yoko Ono And How I Feel Sometimes When I Want to Talk To Jesus Collage: The Things We Lean On copyrighted 2025...
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Jun 18, 20253 min read


When It Is Difficult to Pray Or If Prayer Were A Fish
Theotokos, Virgin Rejoice Mary Full of Grace the Lord is With Thee Great Lent has begun, and true to the form of the season, many people...
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Mar 12, 20256 min read


Mary the Mother of God
"Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all...
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Dec 24, 20244 min read


Diligentia
The Secret Life of Change is a planner that recognizes that changes begin within, and that it is a battle. Therefore the battle must be...
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Nov 26, 20244 min read


Distractions Keep Us From Growth
We Christians, especially the Orthodox, are regularly reminded that we live in a world of distraction that leads us from the one thing...
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Nov 11, 20242 min read
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